An interesting thing happened on the way to the forum…
Or, maybe it didn’t, we’ll never know for sure! Anyway, an interesting thing happened to me this last week. I was contacted by someone I was mildly acquainted with. They were wanting to see if I would spend some time educating them on VAs and OBMs. Then they commented about something on my website. It was a valid comment about something I thought had been taken care of.
I responded back to schedule a time to talk. Their response contained another comment about my website and this blog – this time about what they didn’t find there. I responded that I didn’t write about those topics, I wrote about work/life balance. I then suggested other resources where they could find the info they were looking for. The next response was a comment about not meaning to hurt my feelings and yet another critical comment about my site and blog. All in the name of being “helpful”. I was in the wrong because I didn’t provide what they were looking for.
I went through several stages dealing with this. Anger, frustration, indignation started out the emotional gamut. Then I remembered something. Something important. I don’t have to meet every expectation that someone wants from me, my site or my blog. I do not have to be everything to all people. I only have to be true to myself and my beliefs and values. My site is not meant to educate people on an entire industry. There are too many others who have already taken care of the topic. I can write about what interests me. I don’t have to write about anything that doesn’t.
It’s very freeing to remember such an important idea – something that is important to me!
Tip Of The Day: The only person you need to keep happy is yourself –make sure that you are authentic to who you are!
We had a situation over the weekend – a teenage kid was looking for something to do and ended up talking to me while I worked in the yard for a couple hours. While he was a nice kid, what he was really looking for was friends to hang out with and spend time with. He was lonely and bored and started to think that we would be able to fill that need on a long term basis.
It really brought to mind how important it is for all of us to have and maintain friendships. A strong friendship can nourish us in times of need and allow us the same gift – to be able to nourish others in their need. A friendship can give us a place to laugh and a place to cry, bring us new interests and new insights, broaden our minds and our horizons. With true friends we can have differing opinions and goals, yet still be close.
Everyone is so busy, living their lives, running their businesses, going to work, dealing with the family, that friendships can fall by the wayside when we’re not looking. The problem is, once this happens, it can be very difficult to bring them back. If we didn’t need our friends, this wouldn’t matter but we do need them!
We are living with increasing isolation in a world that is instantly connected. As a Virtual Assistant, I can end up not leaving the house for over a week. I mean literally, not leave the house. Without the connections that I have with my friends, life would be very lonely and boring. I need to hear about everyone else’s commute so that I’m thankful I don’t have one. I need to hear about them going out to lunch so that I can wish I was with them, and then make plans to do so. I need to have someone I can email at a moment’s notice and go have Thai food and get pedicures. Without my friends, I would be boring. My friends help make me who I am.
So today, my Tip of the day is: Do something nice for a friend you haven’t contacted in a while. Make an effort to keep the friendship, you won’t be sorry!