An interesting thing happened on the way to the forum…
Or, maybe it didn’t, we’ll never know for sure! Anyway, an interesting thing happened to me this last week. I was contacted by someone I was mildly acquainted with. They were wanting to see if I would spend some time educating them on VAs and OBMs. Then they commented about something on my website. It was a valid comment about something I thought had been taken care of.
I responded back to schedule a time to talk. Their response contained another comment about my website and this blog – this time about what they didn’t find there. I responded that I didn’t write about those topics, I wrote about work/life balance. I then suggested other resources where they could find the info they were looking for. The next response was a comment about not meaning to hurt my feelings and yet another critical comment about my site and blog. All in the name of being “helpful”. I was in the wrong because I didn’t provide what they were looking for.
I went through several stages dealing with this. Anger, frustration, indignation started out the emotional gamut. Then I remembered something. Something important. I don’t have to meet every expectation that someone wants from me, my site or my blog. I do not have to be everything to all people. I only have to be true to myself and my beliefs and values. My site is not meant to educate people on an entire industry. There are too many others who have already taken care of the topic. I can write about what interests me. I don’t have to write about anything that doesn’t.
It’s very freeing to remember such an important idea – something that is important to me!
Tip Of The Day: The only person you need to keep happy is yourself –make sure that you are authentic to who you are!
Okay, so it’s been a while since I wrote anything here. For what it’s worth, it’s been an interesting time!
There I was a short while ago, writing about the importance of having friends and maintaining friendships. So, trying to follow my own advice, I started looking people up on Facebook. I went back before I was married, to friendships I had then. And lo and behold, there was one of my dearest friends! We’d lost track of each other right after I got married. I got married really fast and then we moved and my friend moved and in the days before email and cell phones, that can be fatal.
I sent the friend request and waited. Within an hour, it was accepted and a message was in my inbox! I could hardly believe it! I’d found my friend. He was on his way out of the country for 2 weeks so I had to practice patience and wait until we could catch up. It was like time had never passed. Within a short while he and his spouse were up here so we could reunite in person. We’ve got plans to go on vacation together in the future!
Then a couple weeks ago, this happened to me – an old friend sent me a friend request in Facebook. I didn’t recognize her married name but accepted anyway. Then the message was in the inbox! We had been such good friends when we were both young and single. It was wonderful just to see what she’s been up to and see pictures of her lovely family.
It was wonderful to be reminded of friendships that I had valued so much in the past. It helps me remember to value the friendships that I have now.
Tip Of The Day: Do whatever it takes to maintain your friendships – you don’t know how much you’ll value them as time goes by.
I'm thankful for my "babies" too - this is Charlotte, better known as Beanie.
I just wanted to touch on thankfulness for a minute. Today I am thankful that the weather is 45 degrees and sunny, that I could drive with the top down and enjoy the sun. I am thankful for my friends and family, who support me in whatever I do. I am thankful for my fabulous clients and for my amazing VA, Laura Jo. I am thankful that I have my own business and that it allows me the freedom that I need to be happy. I am thankful that I have the best husband in the world.
What are YOU thankful for today? Who are you thankful for? Have you told them lately?
Tip of the day: Tell someone why you are thankful for them – it’ll make you feel great!
We had a situation over the weekend – a teenage kid was looking for something to do and ended up talking to me while I worked in the yard for a couple hours. While he was a nice kid, what he was really looking for was friends to hang out with and spend time with. He was lonely and bored and started to think that we would be able to fill that need on a long term basis.
It really brought to mind how important it is for all of us to have and maintain friendships. A strong friendship can nourish us in times of need and allow us the same gift – to be able to nourish others in their need. A friendship can give us a place to laugh and a place to cry, bring us new interests and new insights, broaden our minds and our horizons. With true friends we can have differing opinions and goals, yet still be close.
Everyone is so busy, living their lives, running their businesses, going to work, dealing with the family, that friendships can fall by the wayside when we’re not looking. The problem is, once this happens, it can be very difficult to bring them back. If we didn’t need our friends, this wouldn’t matter but we do need them!
We are living with increasing isolation in a world that is instantly connected. As a Virtual Assistant, I can end up not leaving the house for over a week. I mean literally, not leave the house. Without the connections that I have with my friends, life would be very lonely and boring. I need to hear about everyone else’s commute so that I’m thankful I don’t have one. I need to hear about them going out to lunch so that I can wish I was with them, and then make plans to do so. I need to have someone I can email at a moment’s notice and go have Thai food and get pedicures. Without my friends, I would be boring. My friends help make me who I am.
So today, my Tip of the day is: Do something nice for a friend you haven’t contacted in a while. Make an effort to keep the friendship, you won’t be sorry!
Here's Duncan being serious - He keeps me happy during the day!
Okay, so I’ve had the blog for a few weeks now, it’s time to start posting! I’m going to be writing about work and life and balancing the two, with tips for saving time and energy thrown in for good measure. Make sure and let me know if there is anything that you’d like me to address – I’m always open to suggestions and ideas!
Tip of the day: Make sure you have something fun planned each day so that you have something to look forward to.